I’ve thought about
writing this blog post for years. I finally did it the other day while I was
sitting at the vet with Tasha (the inspiration for my mystery series) and waiting
for her to go in for an MRI. The lesson
was powerful for me, and I hope it someday helps you, too. Then again, perhaps
you’re smarter than I am and don’t need it.
;-)
Tasha-dog recovering from her MRI with best buddy Teddy |
Love comes to us in packages we don’t expect—some we may
think we don’t even want.
Mine, as most of you know, lives in the form of a 100-pound
German shepherd named Tasha. An animal who has changed my life in so many ways.
An animal who is the inspiration for my mystery series. An animal who has
connected me with some of the best people in my life. An animal without whom, I
wouldn’t be writing to you today.
But our life together has been far from easy.
When she was four months old, Tasha started exhibiting
significant health and behavior problems. In spite of the best veterinary care,
four trainers and three animal behaviorists, by the time she was two, the
problems had gotten worse. Euthanasia was mentioned more than once as a reasonable
option.
I never considered it.
Then she hit age three, and we had a particularly bad day. I
remember thinking that night—perhaps even muttering it out loud—that my life
would be easier if Tasha died.
Tasha and the universe discussed it for two weeks, then
decided to grant my wish.
The only noticeable symptom on the Wednesday before
Thanksgiving eight years ago was that Tasha didn’t want to go on her afternoon
walk. By six that evening, I cradled her head in my hands and told her I wasn’t
mad at her anymore. At eight, I told my husband, “I have a bad feeling about
this.” He thought she was fine, but didn’t argue. We took my lethargic-but-otherwise-healthy-looking
dog to an emergency vet.
At nine, the emergency vet told me that Tasha’s spleen had
twisted. If there was no cancer—a big if—Tasha had a fifty percent shot of
surviving the surgery to remove it, and then a fifty percent shot of surviving the
forty-eight hours after surgery.
Then she handed me a hospitalization and surgical estimate
for an amount most people would pay for a used car and gave us a choice: pay
and take our chances, or euthanize. Tasha wouldn’t live the night otherwise.
Euthanasia was not an option.
I collapsed sobbing outside the clinic, convinced that I had
made this happen. That my stupid, not-even-true wish was going to take my dog’s
life. My husband, being smarter than I, said something like, “Well, if you wished
this, take it back!”
I never prayed so hard in my life.
By midnight, Tasha had obtained two blood transfusions so
she’d be stable enough for surgery. At three a.m., I received a call saying
that she had survived surgery. Forty-eight hours later, the vets let her come
home and agreed that she would live provided there was no cancer. The cancer-free
biopsy came back a few days later.
I could finally breathe again.
Why do I write about this? I will never forget that night or
the gift of getting my girl back. She mellowed as she got older and the
behavior issues lessoned significantly, but no matter how bad the day—and there
have been a few bad ones since then—I have cherished my girl.
Every night I say a prayer thanking God, the universe, and
whoever else is listening for giving her back to me. I know that every day I’ve
had with her since then has been a gift. Each prayer ends with the mantra, “May
Tasha have a long and happy life.”
We all have days that seem unbearably tough. Times our loved
ones disappoint us. Times we disappoint ourselves. My challenge to each of you
is to find gratitude—and express it—even on those days.
Every one of them is a gift.
Tracy Weber
Preorder my newest mystery, KARMA'S A KILLER, now at Amazon Barnes and Noble.
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Tracy Weber
Preorder my newest mystery, KARMA'S A KILLER, now at Amazon Barnes and Noble.
Yee haw, yippee, and yahooey!
Check out Tracy Weber’s author page for information about the Downward Dog Mysteries series. A KILLER RETREAT and MURDER STRIKES A POSE are available at book sellers everywhere