Tuesday, February 9, 2010

Looking to the Elements

Since Valentine's Day weekend is approaching, I'm sure we're all being inundated with media reminders and cultural conditioning. What our behaviors should be, how we should treat our lovers, where we should take them, what we should buy them. After a while it's easy to tune it all out.

One thing that caught my attention was this quiz, which comes from a book called Elemental Love Styles by Craig Martin. In it, Martin asserts that we can't know what sort of relationship we have until we know what sort of lovers we are. He represents love styles with the elements: fire, water, earth, air.

After taking the quiz (which, like many personality quizzes, is difficult to answer because more than one answer could be true of me), I was told that I am WATER.

"You are finished!

You are undoubtedly Water.

Your element is Water: You are imaginative, dreamy, artistic, and highly intuitive.

Famous Waters: Cinderella, Dorothy from the Wizard of Oz.

You love: following your moods wherever they lead.

You crave: validation and protection.

If you're single
: Find someone who appreciates your sensitivity. Don't waste time with anyone who shrugs off your emotions as craziness.

If you're in a relationship
: You know what your partner wants before he or she even asks. Don't overwhelm your mate when you feel worried or anxious.

Sex is: both emotional ecstasy and sensory pleasure.

If you love a Water: Give her imagination free rein. She wants to be understood, so listen."

While I admire the element of water, I found that few of these statements actually applied to me, other than that I do get anxious when I'm worried, and I do (like everyone, I assume) want to be understood.

Still, it's fun to take a quiz like this because it focuses one on the inner self for a short amount of time.

So go ahead--take the advice of Martha Stewart's better living blog and determine your elemental love style--then share it with us, and with your significant other.

Have a great Valentine's Day!

13 comments:

Elizabeth Spann Craig/Riley Adams said...

Thanks for the link, Julia! I'll check it out.

Elizabeth
Mystery Writing is Murder

Lisa Bork said...

I'm an Earth: pragmatic, reliable, and slow to anger. Just Carol Brady, Santa Claus and me. Love: tangible results. Crave: security, order, a cozy environment.

Fun quiz, Julia, and for the most part, accurate :)

Julia Buckley said...

It's fun, Elizabeth. And Lisa, aren't the "fellows" listed for each sign rather strange and random? I mean, Santa Claus?

:)

Sue Ann Jaffarian said...

I'm "Air." Famous "Airs" are Alice in Wonderland and Clark Kent. Does that mean I wear a red cape as I fall down the rabbit hole?

Actually, it was surprising how accurate it was for me.

Alan Orloff said...

I'm Earth. Me and Carol Brady (and Lisa). Seems about right.

G.M. Malliet said...

I'm a Cinderella-ish water. Interesting, but that doesn't feel quite right!

Jess Lourey said...

This quiz is my first Valentine's Day present, Julia! Thank you. Like Sue Ann, I'm an air and do think it's accurate.

And the lead-in for the quiz is the worst endorsement of a relationship counselor I've. Ever. Heard:

"When veteran relationship counselor Craig Martin suffered a painful breakup with his longtime partner, he had an epiphany..."

Stay warm, all!

Julia Buckley said...

There is irony in that, Jess. :)

Glad to hear you're all finding some truths in this light-hearted little quiz.

Keith Raffel said...

Thanks for the offer, Julia, but I'm going to allow Alan to maintain his monopoly on male Valentine's Day test taking.

Alan Orloff said...

Not man enough to take a little quiz, Mr. R? I'm Earth, baby!

Julia Buckley said...

Keith, there's no lack of masculinity in learning your love style. :)

Alan, I am impressed by your earthiness.

Beth Groundwater said...

My answers were all over the map (How many of us chose "Clue" for if we were a game and "author/comedian" for if we were creative?!), but I wound up being classified as Earth. Fitting for someone with the name Groundwater, I think.;-)

G.M. Malliet said...

If you were Groundearth it would make even more sense.