As a newer author, I’m lucky in many ways. I’m an extrovert, and I started competitive public speaking at the age of 14. I love nothing more than getting up in front of a crowded room to talk about my work and publicly share my neuroses. Many writers I know—especially those new to the writing scene—aren’t nearly so comfortable. It’s not surprising, really. Authors are programmed to express their ideas at a keyboard, not in front of a microphone. The idea of speaking in front of a group can be terrifying. For many, the fear of public speaking is greater than the fear of death.
Here’s my free and unsolicited advice: Get over it. ;-)
A writer has to express herself verbally in many situations,
including conferences like Malice
Domestic and the Pacific
Northwest Writer’s Conference. Pitching your book to agents and editors,
participating on author panels, speaking at new author forums where you have sixty
seconds to wow readers with the brilliance of your work. All are great
opportunities, if you can stay composed enough to take advantage of them.
There are at least a gazillion blog articles, books,
classes, and videos that teach presentation skills and discuss conference
etiquette. Most of them, however, miss a critical point. The best way to wow an
audience is to show them the true you. Not the you that would rather huddle
under the table. Definitely not the you that yells desperately, “Buy my book!” The
you that shines when you feel the most confident. The you that bubbles with
enthusiasm when you share your passions with friends. The you that often gets
left behind as soon as you step up to the microphone.
Once you feel confident when speaking in front of an
audience, you will automatically escape most of the public speaking traps that
all of those blog articles warn you about. But how do you build that
confidence? The general advice (and it’s true!) is to practice. Give presentations
over and over and over again. Advice that is exquisitely unhelpful for newbie,
terrified authors. If you can’t gain a skill until you practice, but practicing
makes you want to upchuck your orange juice, what can you do?
Practice mentally.
It’s a well-proven fact that your brain doesn’t know the
difference between actually doing an activity and visualizing it. Want to
improve your golf score? Visualize the perfect hole-in-one. Want to get through
dinner with your mother-in-law without sparking the next family feud? Visualize
listening to her rather than talking at her. Want to build self-assurance when public
speaking? Mentally rehearse speaking confidently in front of a group. By
visualizing confidence, you stimulate the areas of your brain that build self
assurance while simultaneously decreasing the drip, drip, drip of adrenaline
that promotes stress. Believe me, it works.
Not a visual learner? No problem! Effective visualizations
aren’t all about seeing. They use all of your senses. Sight, sound, taste,
smell, and touch.
I’ve used the visualization below to help me prepare for job
interviews, speeches, and frightening medical procedures. It’s been a true gift
to me and I hope it helps you.Visualization for Presentation Success
1. Sit comfortably, with your spine erect and the crown of
your head floating up to the ceiling. Sitting either in a chair or on the floor
is fine, as long as you are physically comfortable and your spine is in
“neutral.
2. Allow your eyes to close and your focus to go internal.
3. Notice your breath—without intentionally trying to change
it. Feel the warmth and coolness of the breath at the tip of your nostrils. Allow
your mind to focus on and pay attention to this feeling of the breath. This
will be your anchor. Whenever your attention wanders, you’ll invite it back to
your breath.
4. Remember a situation in the past in which you felt
confident and completely at ease. Try to re-experience that moment with all of
your senses
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What sensations did you feel in your muscles?
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Was your mouth dry or moist? Your jaw tense or
relaxed?
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What was the rhythm of your breath?
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What expression did you wear on your face?
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Were your hands, toes, and jaw relaxed?
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What sensations did you feel internally in your
throat, your stomach, your chest?
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What was your “inner dialogue” like?
The above questions are just guidelines. The specific
sensations and sounds that you notice aren’t important. All that matters is
that you try to relive this positive situation as vividly as you can while utilizing
the senses you’re most drawn to.
5. When you’re ready, try to hold that confident experience
in your body as you mentally step up to a microphone.
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What sensations do you feel in your muscles?
·
Is your mouth dry or moist? Your jaw tense or
relaxed?
·
What is the rhythm of your breath?
·
What expression are you wearing on your face?
·
Are your hands, toes, and jaw relaxed?
·
What sensations do you feel internally in your
throat, your stomach, your chest?
·
What is your “inner dialogue” like?
As in Step 4, the above questions are just guidelines. The
specific sensations and sounds that you notice aren’t important. All that
matters is that you try to feel confidence in this new setting as vividly as
you can while utilizing the senses you’re most drawn to.
6. When your mind wanders—and it will!—notice how your body
responds. If your muscles start tensing, your breath shortens, or your gremlin
mind starts giving you grief, take a deep breath and go back to Step 3. Feel
the breath inside your nostrils, refocus your mind then begin the visualization
in Step 4 and/or Step 5 again.
7. Continue this visualization for 5 minutes or longer if
you’d like.
Your body already knows how to have fun—if only your
trickster mind will allow it. Mentally rehearsing confidence in situations of
stress is no different than practicing your golf swing. Pattern your mental
muscles to find fun instead of fear. Like most life skills, visualization is
more effective the more often it’s practiced. Try doing it several times a day
the week before an event. You might be astounded at the difference!
Those of you who will be at Malice next month, know that I
will be there cheering you on, hoping for your complete and utter success. I’m
happy to give you in-person pointers. Public speaking is easy for me. Mingling
with strangers is tougher. Please stop me and say hi! I promise, you’ll make my
day!
Namaste
Tracy Weber
Tracy Weber is the author of the award-winning
Downward Dog Mysteries series featuring yoga teacher Kate Davidson and her
feisty German shepherd, Bella. Tracy loves sharing her passion for yoga and
animals in any form possible. Her first book, Murder
Strikes a Pose won the Maxwell Award for Fiction and is a 2015 Agatha
award nominee for Best First Novel. The second book in her series, A Killer Retreat, was released January, 2015 by Midnight Ink.
Tracy and her husband live in
Seattle with their challenging yet amazing German shepherd Tasha. When she’s
not writing, Tracy spends her time teaching yoga, walking Tasha, and sipping
Blackthorn cider at her favorite ale house.
Visit her at TracyWeberAuthor.com, friend her on
Facebook at https://www.facebook.com/tracywe,
or e-mail her at Tracy@WholeLifeYoga.com.
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